Monday, August 25, 2008

好忙、好忙。。。
新房子終於裝修好了,剩下來就是收拾和等待搬進去。。。
日子過得好快、好快,2個月的暑假就快過去了。我們就要進入新生活、新環境了
日子充滿了期待﹣期待好好寫博客的日子﹣你將會看到一個全新面貌的博客﹣珍珍的世界﹣有許許多多生活題材要和每一位的你分享。。。
等我‘回來‘吧!

7. 攝人停頓的美

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回來了,沒人替我傳話了。
所以我只好親自寫了這封sms,告訴妳這個小傻瓜,
我跟本不會離開,也沒走遠過。
我對你有信心,你也不用懷疑我吧。
咱倆個小傻瓜會永遠快樂的。
笑一笑吧,我愛看你笑的樣子。2053

親愛的
你知道嗎?自從我們一天加上一天更深更新的知遇被發掘後,我越發笑不出來了。
今天我更是發現我跟本再也不能笑了。
因為最不可能的夢想已經在我生命中成真了。

我們之間綻放的一切是攝人停頓的美。

我們是故事的規畫者,
自諞自導自演了一齣紅男綠女的心中完美的烏托邦
一切是完美無瑕的配合。

我看得呆了:我們的存在體現出你的哲學理念
﹣你接收變化並歸納形成我們完美的一部份﹣
這讓一切看似壞的的變化,後來都成了合情合理。
“我們”和“完美”也成了合成同義詞









Sunday, August 24, 2008

6. Sweep




The floor you walk on is smooth. There is no ground there.
Magic begins with blood. Outside, there are trees,
With concrete under their roots. But I have passed the tombs of kings,
Regaled them with pacing, checked bins for food and wrappings.
I have scoured the seas for miles, cloaked my face with ash.
My fingertips opening, accepting my time.

The dark cylinders of half-smoked cigarettes
For me, I’m your sorrow
Calling in your dreams
For me, I’m your shadow
Howling in the streets

Tomorrow, I will walk the streets
And steel myself for the familiar. Your eyes
Will not settle, a hunger. You’d be happier in your grave.
When we meet, share stories, you stretch me. I see,
I see a semi-circle of teeth.

The dark cylinders of half-smoked cigarettes
For me, I’m your sorrow
Calling in your dreams
For me, I’m your shadow
Howling in the streets 



5. One Of These Mornings


"One Of These Mornings"



One of these mornings
Won't be very long
You will look for me
And I'll be gone


4. Ready For Love

"Ready For Love"



"Ready For Love"

I am ready for love
Why are you hiding from me
I'd quickly give my freedom
To be held in your captivity

I am ready for love
All of the joy and the pain
And all the time that it takes
Just to stay in your good grace
Lately I've been thinking
Maybe you're not ready for me
Maybe you think I need to learn maturity
They say watch what you ask for 
Cause you might receive 
But if you ask me tomorrow 
I'll say the same thing

I am ready for love
Would you please lend me your ear?
I promise I won't complain 
I just need you to acknowledge I am here

If you give me half a chance
I'll prove this to you 
I will be patient, kind, faithful and true
To a man who loves music
A man who loves art
Respect's the spirit world
And thinks with his heart

I am ready for love
If you'll take me in your hands
I will learn what you teach
And do the best that I can

I am ready for love
Here with an offering of 
My voice
My Eyes
My soul
My mind

Tell me what is enough
To prove I am ready for love

I am ready

3. 最傻氣的是風兒 - a raging tempest

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我只不過是離開了一會兒,風就帶來了雲,雲就下了雨,然後天晴過後風也走了。
我看著留下交差的日月,無言了。
我一直以為風雨為我們傳話,原來是我自以為是罷了。
突然好像長大了,可是又寂寞了。0731

我的傻瓜,你弄錯了。
你難到看不到那日月交差的時空中背後帶出的那份莊嚴的美麗嗎?
風雨過後留下了是一份無可比擬、寧靜的美。
她們是把話傳了,只是我們聽進去了多少、消化後、表達後又剩下了多少。
都市人誰都寂寞,誰都可以不再寂寞,只是我們選擇的分別,選擇讓別人如何看見自己、如何走下去。

有一位經過雲兒身旁,調皮不願逗留的風兒。
颱風掠過把雲兒雨兒都旋翻地面目全非。

嚷著要被停留,卻又不甘於停留、不完全被停留下來。
嚷著沒有被停留的緣份,卻又忍不住和人糾纏不已。
嚷著無羈的思想,以為自己毫不在乎,卻不差覺自己乎略了愛是需要培養的過程。
他愛上了雲兒, 以及和她糾纏不情的爭論在理性和感性之間。
雲兒身邊出現過了最讓人感動風仙子
原來他最懂愛,又最渴望被愛。
可是看似愛的到來,他卻又捉不著。

像火般絢麗的你,讓我偷偷地瞭解到,要再次重新學習愛的包容。
釋懷後我就讓你繼續燃燒下去吧。誰能做些什麼呢。一切都是決擇。
萬般皆是愛、半點不由人。

你說E和我都一樣,無法把現在給你,都把你排在命運的後面。
你難到都像天下的傻瓜蛋一樣,以為事實真是如此嗎?
如果你真願意一同燃燒的話,又有誰抗拒的了那美麗的知遇呢?

只是你最愛的還是你自己
不容許愛裡有任何的過錯。
強行不讓自己走前一步,唯一讓寂寞繼續纏繞的是自己而不是命運的安排。

當你每一次在向風雨展現愛的同時,你也悄悄地為自己立了衛牆。
忽略了真真無羈的愛是當一切繁華過後,當雙方都一同品嘗過後,才會遺留下來。

你暄嚷著只等待完美的愛,
其實你最愛看見我為你熊熊地燃燒,然後理性地分析說不能擁有我
我們想鏡子反映地一樣,想的說的愛的都是自己和對方的心聲
只是時空的偏差,還是風兒雨兒在搗蛋?
我們都愛上了在文字裡找到知己, 愛上自己和對方;然後悄悄地擁有自己和對方。

其實你最愛和我一起為此時此刻crash and burn, in a ranging burn
這就是我們最完美又無羈的烏托邦。

這就是風雨捎來、雨兒偷聽風兒說的七彩上色的故事。
我都聽懂了,只不讓你知道罷了。
好讓我有讓你繼續好奇翻看閱讀的驚喜,
不讓你走開。Don't even think about it.
If I ever sound any pushy, it is because I want to be your follower.





Saturday, August 23, 2008

2. 雲兒嘆道:“你讓風兒戲弄她?“

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Today it rains very heavy here, is it because you were thinking of me?  Today I got fever and sore throat... Finally, I crash and burn too. 1900

Today whole day I think of you more I think of my E.  Seems like its my turn to have emotional challenge now. 1347

今天風兒又來了,我不在。
可是風兒自個兒說了一大堆話還七彩上色般得意。
正當風兒說完要走時,在旁偷聽的小雨忍不住了問:主人不在了,我也不再傳話了。你為何還自個兒說得起勁呢?
風兒笑:我只專心做我該做的,一心一意地去做好他。其他的我就深信會自然地傳到吧。
小雨笑風兒傻就離開了。不久後妳那兒卻還是下雨了,我不在,所以我想問你小雨和你說了什麼?1641

I need you and I need you more everyday
I believe my mind fell in love with your mind
I cant deny that I hope you are the one 0245

小雨對我說她看見雲兒好寂寞。
苟且維生靠的是風兒憐惜地捎過來的零碎只字片語。

她似乎永遠地注定飄流,任游隨風帶她到處去,四海為家,恍彿永遠找不到靠岸。
每每似乎捉著了什麼的時後,卻又看著它有隨風飄去了。

雲兒嘆道,你究竟是風兒悄悄化成的仙子想要將她留下,還是你讓風兒作弄她?0356




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Friday, August 22, 2008

1. 風兒說。。。:“ 有一種叫不占據的愛。”

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剛才風兒和我說妳需要一點兒愛, 於是我叫了小雨跟妳說我會想妳的。
如果妳那邊下雨了,妳就知道我對妳的愛已收到了。2005

enjoying the moments with you
the rain came back and told me that she was sad....
and she will not help me passing any message to you anymore....
she said, "her wall is too thick, I gave a HK a typhoon also cannot penetrate her" 2350


短短數句、訴盡心中心聲委屈
。。。你就愛這樣風花雪月地討我歡心
給我驚喜,知道我需要你的存在來看見自己的價值。

你讓我放心地去和你一同去探索可愛的未來,
更放心的是沒有任何承諾未來的必要。

你拾起了我忐忑不安、殘缺的心, 
萬般呵護讓我安心地去享用你的愛 

我弄不懂
究竟你要的是什麼

然後你又提醒我什麼是要?要的是什麼?
讓看見我的問題多無聊,
我慌忙地收回和驚然地發現

你的存在反映出我的自己
原來你我什麼都不想要。。。
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Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Parenting

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about your daughter situation. i think i have experienced the similar things.  first of all, u need to understand how a 3-year-old would think - psychology. u need to read some books on parenting, most of the book that i read could help so i guess uc an find any book and ti would be a good book to show u about how to raise a kid.

basically it is about security that a 3yo would need. the more she show anger and hit others to get thigns that she wants, might usualy cos she has no security abotu the world. imagine when she was inside of u before she was born, she felt so safe and warm and comfortable but things changed right at the moment she was born so new born are always crying cos they need security, they didnt know where is mama who protected them in the past, so, YOU need to spend some quiet time with her, to build up some trust with her, let her listen to your voice, cos your voice is very important to her as it is the only thing that is still same when she was inside of you. say, one day spend 15-30min with her alone in one room to talk to her, play with her toys, tell her a story, etc. in this, u also need to learn to have patience and to get to know her. you show her your soft voice and normal voice tone and she will love you and your voice.

To do this, both of u get to understand each other better. so next time when she is outside and being naughty again, u scold her and raise your voice, she will notice that mama is different so i will stop cos i dont want mama angry, i only want mama loves me so i need to behave, etc.  of cos this is not exactly going to happen, but it will somehow have some effects.

since u have two girls, im afraid u have to spend double effort. cos the elder girl would need more security than this one, from the moment the younger one is born, she felt the attention on her is all gone, when i cry, no one care of me and ask me to be a big sister to stay quiet and behave, but when muimui cry everyone just go to her... what is HER?
this is common psychology that we need to take care of when the 2nd is born, to the 1st one.

i assume u have gone thr this cos 2nd is already 3yo.  as such if u r going to do anything to help them, you have to do twice for each of them. do those i said above, plus, tell the 1st one that she is so clever to help u take care of thigns at home and help you to monitor sister, she is so cute and so young and so innocent, can u help me to look after her pls. if she is naughty u let me know but u dont beat her and u help me to teach her please, etc. this will work cos this will help her to build up confident and value her place being big sister that no one can have.

but, to have 2 kids, u have to remember, never compare. to compare is the worse thing to do in raising a kid cos the situation u show in comparison, there is always one is better and one be worse. as such, u and i do not wish to be the worse one, do we? so, dont let anyone be the worse one. it wont help to boast her confident to do better next time, u only make her being more aggressive to fight for thigns that she wants, which she might not really want!? complicated, eh?

another thing to raise a 'perfect' kid, is to teach him not to blame others. eg, when she fell on floor and cried, do you hit the floor and tell her that floor is bad bad make you fell and pain pain.
this is so wrong. cos it is all fault of the floor? this way she feels safe, but does it help to make her stop crying? she cried cos of pain and angry so u ve jsut helped her to feel more pain and more angry with those actions and she learns to be more angry to the world cos the world is bad to her.
in the other way round, instead of kissing her and care about her, we should care about the floor in front of her and ask the floor if it is painful cos she has just fell and sat on you etc... this is a stunting moment for her to see the drama that u played in front of her and immediately u make her understand the whole picture that it is she being careless and fell down and help to notice that she has jsut hurt others without intention. and ask her to go with you to ask for forgiveness from the floor...
i know it is funny thing to do  but i found this in a book and i think it is really interesting. so far, momo doesnt cry much when he falls or get hurt, etc. i cant say it is all bcos fo this technique i used on taeching him, maybe he is born being a tough boy, i dont know. but i think it is good to share with other parents. :)

be patient - be well!
it applies very much to our lives too. so parents always grow with kids :)
wish you luck!!

about decisions to be made at home, it is usually me. i guess it is a good way just either one cos even u r baba & mama but it is not easy to be parents cos u ahve diff. points of view. so better choose. for me and Ed, he is usuaully there to make final and big decisions but i make all small decisions, eg, home, kid.

both of you should make time to sit down and talk, if not everyday, at least once a week? first, of cos u need to really look into his life and find out about his sadness first. dont comment on it unless he asks u, if not just stay there for him being a wife to him, someone he feels comfortable to share with. 2nd, tell him about your sadness too. he might not be so "professional" cos men are very stupid :((((( they always give solutions and always make us continue quarrel and quarrel :((( believe me, i know how it feels. so most of the time just give up telling him, right? :) ok until which extend u want to tell him, its ur choice.  3rd, talk about the kids. ask him what does he think, what he wants to do, share about yours too. at last make a decision together - get a conclusion/solution on how do u want to react as their parents and find out a big picture that u want together with him.

Monday, August 18, 2008

Wash, Iron, Mend, Clean, Shop, Cook & Lord's Day



Wash Day...........
 
Monday WashDay  
Lord, help me wash away all my selfishness and vanity, 
so I may serve you with perfect humility through the week ahead. 

Tuesday  Ironing Day  
Dear Lord, help me iron out all the wrinkles of prejudice I have collected through the years, so that I may see the beauty in others. 

Wednesday Mending Day  
O God, help me mend my ways so I will not set a bad example for others.


Thursday Cleaning Day 
Lord Jesus, help me to dust out all the many faults I have been hiding in the secret corners of my heart. 

Friday Shopping Day 
O God, give me the grace to shop wisely so I may purchase eternal happiness for myself and all others in need of love.
 
Saturday Cooking Day 
Help me, my Savior, to brew a big kettle of brotherly love and serve it with clean, sweet bread of human kindness. 

Sunday  The Lord's Day    
O God, I have prepared my house for you. 
Please come into my heart so I may spend the day and the rest of my life in your presence. 
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If this message has inspired you in any way or 

you feel that it can brighten someone else's day, please forward it. 



'Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.' 
 
 
 



Friday, August 15, 2008

亦舒的十大新女性原則

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亦舒的粉絲從她的小說中篩選出十大新女性原則︰


婚姻原则:人们爱的是一些人,与之结婚的又是另一些人。


生活原则:人只能活一次,千万先娱己,后娱人。


事业原则:这双手虽然小。


错误原则:不是你的错,是社会的错。


分手原则:无论怎样的分手,无非是爱的不够深


男人原则:谁要男人衷心铭谢?我只要他们爱我。


同事原则:根本同阁下吃饭喝茶的是这班人,掉转身讲阁下闲话的亦是同一班人。


修养原则:有气质的淑女,不会人她读什么书,去过什么地方,有多少件衣裳,买过什么珠宝。


情绪原则:接吻可以选错对象,发脾气则不可。


缘分原则:真正属于你的爱情不会叫你痛苦,爱你的人不会叫你患得患失,有人一票就中了大奖,有人写一本书就成了名,凡觉得辛苦,就是强求。

我習慣對看起來很有道理的東西大肆膜拜思量一番,但更清楚欽佩讚嘆之後能否實踐又是另外一回事。

But rules were meant to be broken,我只能耳提面命自己話不要說的太滿,隨時給自己留點後路。




WHY WOMEN CRY

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WHY WOMEN CRY

Why are you crying, a young boy asked his Mom? 
“Because I’m a woman,” she told him. 
“I don’t understand,” he said. 
His Mom just hugged him and said, “And you never will, but that’s o.k.”……

Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does Mom seem to cry for no reason?” 
“All women cry for no reason,” was all his Dad could say……

The little grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry. 
Finally he put in a call to God and when God got back to him, he asked “God, why women cry so easily?”

God answered…… “When I made woman, I decided she had to be special. 
I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet, 
made her arms gentle enough to give comfort……!

I gave her the inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times will come even from her own children.

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going and take care of her family and friends, 
even when everyone else gives up, through sickness and fatigue without complaining……

I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances. 
Even when her child has hurt her badly……

She has the very special power to make a child’s boo-boo feel better and to quell a teenager’s anxieties and fears……

I gave her strength to care for her husband, despite faults and I fashioned her from his rib to protect her heart……

I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, 
but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly……

For all of this hard work, I also gave her a tear to shed. 
It is hers to use whenever needed and it is her only weakness……

When you see her cry, tell her how much you love her, and all she does for everyone, 
and even though she may still cry, you will have made her heart feel good.

She is special!!!

To men, so they will understand about what a wonderful thing a woman is.

Each day is a mountain that must be climbed; with courage each step gets easier.





Wednesday, August 13, 2008

一個個一生中最不重要的人??

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事情發生在美國的一所大學。 

在快下課時教授對同學們說: "我和大家做個遊戲,誰願意配合我一下。
一女生走上台來。 

教授說: "請在黑板上寫下你難以割捨的二十個人的名字。" 
女生照做了。有她的鄰居、朋友以及親人等等。 

教授說:"請你劃掉一個這些當中妳認為最不重要的人" 
女生劃掉了一個她鄰居的名字。 

教授又說:"請你再劃掉一個。" 
女生又劃掉了一個她的同事。 

教授再說:"請你再劃掉一個一生中最不重要的人" 
女生又劃掉了一個。   ......   

最後,黑板上只剩下了三個人,她的父母、丈夫和孩子。 
教室非常安靜,同學們靜靜的看著教授,感覺這似乎已不再是一個遊戲了。 

教授平靜的說:"請再劃掉一個。" 
女生遲疑著,艱難的做著選擇....... 
她舉起粉筆,劃掉了父母的名字。 

"
請再劃掉一個。"身邊又傳來了教授的聲音。 
她驚呆了,顫巍巍地舉起粉筆緩慢而堅決的又劃掉了兒子的名字。   

緊接著,她哇的一聲哭了,樣子非常痛苦。 

教授等她平靜了一下,問道: "和你最親的人應該是你的父母和你的孩子,因為父母是養育的人,孩子是你親生的,而丈夫是可以重新再尋找的,為什麼丈夫反倒是你最難割捨的人呢? " 

同學們靜靜地看著她,等待著她的回答。
 

女生平靜而又緩慢地說道 : "隨著時間的推移,父母會先我而去,孩子長大成人後肯定也會離我而去,真正陪伴我度過一生的只有我的丈夫"




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